How your feelings are signs from your Soul— Are you listening to them?

If there is one thing that is always with us, in us, and is expressing through us, it is our feelings.

Our feelings are what we all experience inside of us. They are what make us human. They are what make us laugh, cry, dream, and desire. You can be in the same room as someone else but depending on what you are feeling, you are living in a totally different reality at that moment.

Yet, despite the presence of feelings, as a society, we’ve been conditioned to avoid them— especially when we feel low or empty.

We are taught to only trust the mind and not our feelings, beginning from the moment we are picking our career or selecting business/life strategies. On top of that, we are bombarded with distractions, work, and addictions like social media, in order to run away from how we feel.

I know this because I spent over two decades of my life running away from my feelings— only to chase a career/income that my parents expected of me.

I didn’t know how important my feelings were, until after I graduated from college. There, I ended up working as a pharmacy technician, a job I totally hated and dreaded. In that year of hitting my rock bottom, I had to face all my inner demons (i.e. all the “yucky” feelings like guilt and shame) that I was trying to avoid my whole life.

During that year, I saw how a majority of people live life that way—chasing for things that we think we “should” do while ignoring our feelings deep down.

Schools only teach us to make decisions based on information, but not our feelings. We only consult to encyclopedias with “how to” information to get somewhere, yet we do not consult what it is that we are actually feeling. We treat our feelings are like a mystery box, only reserved to be opened up and expressed inside a therapist’s office.

But what we do not see is that our feelings are always communicating to us, guiding us, leading us.

Positive feelings tell us what we want more of. Negative feelings let us know where our souls are suffocating deep down. By listening to BOTH of them, we get to carve a life that is peaceful, aligned, and authentic to us. In essence, our feelings are how the Divine speaks to us.

It is like using a compass to walk to the destination your soul wants the most. When you feel fulfilled and at peace, it is like your is soul telling you “Good job, you are on the right path.” On the other hand, if you feel stressed out, overwhelmed, or feel off in general, your soul is sharing you that you likely want to course-correct. BOTH are necessary for us to listen to and accept.

However, what I’ve seen is that a lot of people only cling onto positive feelings, while resisting the negatives. Even in the spiritual community, we are taught that negative feelings are “low vibrations” so must be avoided in order to manifest what we want.

But what you will see is that as long as you are avoiding something, they will always come up one way or the other.

The same goes for feelings.

As long as you are running away from your feelings, you will run into circumstances that trigger them so they can surface up to be healed.

Like for instance if you are afraid of feeling lonely you will likely end up finding yourself in situations that make you feel lonely, such as relationships where you feel left out or abandoned. Or if you are afraid of feeling shame, you will bump into situations that embarrass you or make you feel bad about yourself.

It is this running away from the so-called “negative” feelings that make them further trapped, blocked, and stuck.

Which is why when you are only chasing after the “success” or the “highs” that we glamorize on social media, you may end up feeling empty or worse about your own life. Or if you are only speaking positive affirmations to yourself, like “I am rich, I am beautiful” etc., it will only feel good in the moment… But then the underlying feelings you are running away from (e.g. fear of being broke, fear of being ugly etc.) will come up again.

The truth my love is that, until you learn to love your emotions, you will still find it hard to love life

The truth is, our feelings are actually our little children wanting to be loved and cared for by us. Even the negative feelings are showing us where our true needs are being unfulfilled and unmet.

Our feelings our like our inner children saying “I want your presence” to a parent (i.e. from You). But if we are ignoring them, through distractions, busy-ness, and focusing on “fixing” external circumstances, the pain of the inner child balloons inside of us.

And among sensitive souls in particular, the emotions that we ignore, and therefore become trapped can manifest as:

• Constantly worrying, stressing, and overthinking about the future:
  This happens because the mind is trying to control outcomes so you don’t have to feel what you fear

• Feeling “off” that sometimes it feels as though you don’t have enough or aren’t as good as other people:
  This happens because the mind may associate the negative pent-up emotions with judgements about yourself

• (physically) Feeling tightness, tension, and stress:
  This happens because trapped emotions become locked up, usually in places that correlate to the related chakra/ energy center. For instance, tense jaw may mean emotions related to self-expression (i.e. throat chakra) locked up.

  (spiritually) Feeling lost, feeling disconnected, or not knowing a sense of meaning and purpose:
  This happens because we’ve lost connected to our center where our inner knowing comes from.

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But once you feel and moving through your feelings, life will become way smoother and easier.

That’s because when you are allowing yourself to feel them, love them, and express them (i.e. the “negative” emotions), you are actually freeing them.

This means it will no longer be of bother to you when you do feel low, negative, or sad. Instead, the “negative” emotions can actually become power catalysts for you to understand and realize more of yourself. That means, they can assist you to be able to explore the unlimited potential, wisdom, and healing that lives inside of you.

Like for me, now, whenever I do feel low, sad, or angry, I no longer judge myself, nor the emotions, nor my situations and become trapped inside the “stuckness” anymore. Instead, through transmuting the negative emotions in a way that my Higher Self is guiding me toward, I become free-er, more liberated, more expanded— in fact, even more so than feeling “positive” all the time!

Through seeing the darkness of my emotions, I realized the depth of who I truly am. And that means, being able to experience awe, beauty, and wonder, even if life doesn’t always go the way I’d expect. That means, finding true appreciation for life and the little things, like collecting star dust that the Divine leaves to guide me on a dark night.

One example of awe is that which I experience with my dream journal— sometimes whenever I have a question or uncertainty in my business, I would ask Spirit to give me clarity through my dreams. And upon analyzing them the next day, I would see insights and deeper meanings of why I’m going through what I’m going through, usually through “dark” emotions in dreams.

All of this is to say that the emotions you deem as “negative” can actually be used as powerful tools for growth, fulfillment, and self-realization. To me, through accepting my dark emotions (and letting them freely express through me), I gained profound peace and meaning that I wouldn’t have discovered otherwise. I found a sense of inner stability that is independent of external circumstances, unlike if I was only sticking to the emotional “highs.”

To you, such benefits of emotional alchemy (i.e. the art of emotional healing) may look different, but there is one thing I’m sure of. That is the fact that you will become free the moment you also free the emotions inside of the self. In there, you will see that the whole point of life is to realize who you are amidst all the feelings that come and go… and by doing so, you will witness the miracle being that is You.

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My love, if this article speaks to something in you, I’d like to invite you to a free 1:1 psychic healing call. On the call, you will get to unravel the inner mystery that lives inside of you— so you can experience the truth and beauty of your emotions and how the magic of healing lies within you… and you are never far from that Higher power.