Are you listening to your feelings? How to know what your soul is saying
If there is one thing that is always with us, in us, and is expressing through us, it is our feelings.
Our feelings are what we all experience inside of us. They are what make us human. They are what make us laugh, cry, dream, and desire. You can be in the same room as someone else but depending on what you are feeling, you are living in a totally different reality at that moment.
Yet, despite the presence of feelings, as a society, we’ve been conditioned to avoid them— especially when we feel low or empty.
We are taught to only trust the mind and not our feelings, beginning from the moment we are picking our career or selecting business/life strategies. On top of that, we are bombarded with distractions, work, and addictions like social media, in order to run away from how we feel.
I know this because I spent over two decades of my life running away from my feelings— only to chase a career/income that my parents expected of me.
I didn’t know how important my feelings were, until after I graduated from college. There, I ended up working as a pharmacy technician, a job I totally hated and dreaded. In that year of hitting my rock bottom, I had to face all my inner demons (i.e. all the “yucky” feelings like guilt and shame) that I was trying to avoid my whole life.
During that year, I saw how a majority of people live life that way—chasing for things that we think we “should” do while ignoring our feelings deep down.
Schools only teach us to make decisions based on information, but not our feelings. We only consult to encyclopedias with “how to” information to get somewhere, yet we do not consult what it is that we are actually feeling. We treat our feelings are like a mystery box, only reserved to be opened up and expressed inside a therapist’s office.
But what we do not see is that our feelings are always communicating to us.
Positive feelings tell us what we want more of. Negative feelings let us know where our souls are suffocating deep down. By listening to BOTH of them, we get to carve a life that is peaceful, aligned, and authentic to us.
It is like using a compass to walk to the divine destination you want the most. When you feel fulfilled and at peace, it is like your is soul telling you “Good job, you are on the right path.” On the other hand, if you feel stressed out, overwhelmed, or feel off in general, your soul is sharing you that you likely want to course-correct. BOTH are necessary for us to listen to and accept.
However, what I’ve seen is that a lot of people only cling onto positive feelings, while resisting the negatives. Even in the spiritual community, we are taught that negative feelings are “low vibrations” so must be avoided in order to manifest what we want.
But what you will see is that as long as you are avoiding something, they will always come up one way or the other.
The same goes for feelings.
As long as you are running away from what you are feeling, you will run into circumstances that trigger them so they can surface up to be healed.
Like for instance if you are afraid of feeling lonely you will end up finding yourself in situations that make you feel lonely, such as relationships where you feel left out or abandoned. Or if you are afraid of feeling shame, you will bump into situations that embarrass you or make you feel bad about yourself.
It is this running away from the so-called “negative” feelings that make them further trapped, blocked, and stuck.
Which is why when you are only chasing after the “success” or the “highs” that we glamorize on social media, you will likely end up feeling empty or worse about your own life. Or if you are only speaking positive affirmations to yourself, like “I am rich, I am beautiful” etc., it will only feel good in the moment… But then the underlying feelings you are running away from (e.g. fear of being broke, fear of being ugly etc.) will come up again.
The truth is, until you learn to love your emotions, you will still find it hard to love life
I tell my clients that our feelings are actually our little children wanting to be loved and cared for by us. Even the negative feelings are showing us where our true needs are being unfulfilled and unmet.
Yet, as long as you are running away from your feelings through busy-work, trying to “fix” yourself, and overthinking, the pain you feel deep down will be unresolved.
It’s like a child saying “I want your presence” to a parent but then as a parent saying “let me do this work instead.” Which is why matter how hard you try to “fix” your life, it is still repeating the cycle that is making you feel further stuck and trapped, because deep down your emotions are stuck.
But once you feel and moving through your feelings, life will become way smoother and easier
That’s because when you are allowing yourself to feel them, love them, and express them (i.e. the negative feelings), you are actually freeing them.
This means it will no longer be of bother to you when you do feel low, negative, or sad. An
This is what it means for you to experience emotional freedom.
they In fact, I have realized that it is in the “low” that we find the depths of what we want.
When you no longer trying to avoid “bad” feelings, you will experience greater appreciation, who
It’s like you are an artist and now you can finally paint with all colors of life— instead of only sticking to the what’s bright.
Life will feel more whole, complete, and radiant as a result. Because you are no longer resisting against what is Here. In a way, you are now working with life instead of trying to work against life.
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In fact, this way of life is actually more freer, fuller, and effortless than the hyped-up positivity world that a lot of LOA and motivational people are trying to get to. Because you accept what is, and work together with what is.
In my own lifee,
I know that learning to be with our emotions is not easy. A lot of time, when we “sit with our emotions” it can bring up a hefty mass of pent-up emotions that you’ve been running away from before.
For example, recently, as I chose to follow my soul’s calling of being a full-time blogger/coach, it brought up a lot of fears residing within me. Such as, fears of not being able to pay bills, fears of having to go back to a 9-5 life, fears of not being able to help my mom financially etc., even though I have 18 months of savings!
And yes, illogical fears and anxiety do come up as human beings, no matter how rich, beautiful, and successful you are. However, when you learn to be in a harmonious relationships with your emotions, you become more grounded, more strategic, more confident in who you are. It’s like you become a “peaceful warrior.”
In my case, through facing my fears, I have been able to heal the root of scarcity that have been eroding away the spirits of my ancestors. I have been able to explore beyond the previously-set barriers toward inner freedom, with creativity bursting forth like a river unobstructed. Through being at peace with all my emotions, I have been able to dive headfirst into the ocean of my dreams, no longer waiting for a future moment.
Your ability to feel emotions is a gift that leads to your divine destiny. Yet they have been avoided, or to put it other words “controlled upon this planet” as in the song, Ace of Cups by LSDream. Your emotions tell you what’s the path vs what’s not for you, in fact, even beyond our minds do. It is when we learn to receive them, without shame nor judgement, that we open our eyes to a world of rainbows, auras, and magic, beyond a black-and-white existence.
