Self-doubt is the only thing holding you back + How to release it
Your soul wants to be on fire: expressing yourself fully in business while serving clients in a way that is in line with your purpose.
The only thing that represses it— are the parts of you that do not believe in yourself (i.e. self-doubt).
It’s a voice in the head that says you are not doing it “right”, that you need to “fix” yourself, you don’t have what it takes.
A voice that doesn’t trust where you are and constantly compares your path to someone else’s.
Whether that is, to serve clients at a new capacity, opening your intuitive gifts, or following your creative calling, self-doubt puts you on hold– making you unfulfilled with where you are.
This is made worse especially when the things you see online can make you easily doubt yourself. Such as, marketing messages telling you left and right that you need to fix this, fix that, or even pain-pointing messages telling you that you are “handicapped” without their strategies... blah blah blah
Which can make the mind become constantly trapped in a restless, frantic mode.
This can look like having beliefs that other people are at a “higher level” and that you don’t have what they have. Or becoming overwhelmed on what you need to achieve/perform that you become paralyzed on what to do.
But what I want to tell you my love, is that inside of you holds the greatest key. Yes, you can buy a ten-thousand dollar course for “manifestation codes” but when it’s coming from a place of not trusting in yourself, the shift you experience will be volatile. It will feel like the money/ “manifestations” can come in and go any moment. It can feel like your transformation is at the mercy of someone’s else.
Which is why self-trust is the key that lives inside of you.
It is what makes the difference between second guessing yourself in every decision vs. having an instant intuitive “hit” and then acting on it.
It is what makes the difference between being stuck in the loop of “figuring things out” vs having a strong knowing of what’s right for you and what will get you to where you want.
To entrepreneurs, it is what makes the difference between a business where things feel stagnant/slow vs. you seeing the higher view of what’s happening and taking part in what creates flow.
To me, having self-trust (instead of doubts) was what got me from feeling like “nobody cares what I have to share” to writing content where potential clients tell me how deeply they resonate with my messages. It was also what got me from not knowing what my “niche” even is to creating offers that meet the exact needs that my clients are having.
And because having doubts is part of the entrepreneurial journey, in this blog post, I want to share with you how you can release them. So whether it is for marketing in your business or coaching clients, you will be able to show up with more trust and confidence:
Find the root of the doubt
Doubts are like clouds. They give you a hazy view of reality so you can’t see clearly whether certain things are right or wrong for you.
Which is why the first step to releasing them is to be able to distinctively tell whether the doubts are coming from the gut or the mind.
In other words,whether that’s actually your intuition telling you that something is not right for you or whether it’s just a part of you who doesn’t believe in yourself.
An example of your intuition would be like when you are invited to a party but you have a feeling that something is “off.” So you decide to not go. And later, it turned out that it’s your intuition protecting you from a madman at the party.
I had something similar like that in my business early on: when I was taught to use strategies that do not feel good to my heart. I felt “icky” using them.
And I realized later on, that it was my intuition refusing to use these strategies because they were cut-throat and aggressive that makes running a business hard to sustain (I call them metal brush strategies lol). The resistance felt like self-doubt at first but only later I saw that it was my intuition telling me that it’s not how I wanted to attract clients.
On the other hand, when the voice that is telling you to not do something is coming from the doubts (instead of intuition), you feel small and incapable. They can even be nasty thoughts that say aren’t of worth, you suck, you will never catch up to others etc.
2. Dissolve fears underneath the doubt
When doubts occur it’s because they are protecting you from deep-rooted fears– fears that are usually irrational.
It’s like when you’re learning how to do public speaking. The repercussions of giving “a bad speech” may not be that big of a deal. However, to the mind, it feels scary because of underlying fears such as fear of criticism and fear of standing out different from others. The same goes to posting on social media.
So releasing doubts comes down to making friends with your fear. That means bringing up hidden fears to softly hold them. Speak to them. Offer love to them. When I used to have this one fear around “money running out” when I first went full-time in my business I healed it through devoting myself to radical self-expression.
As in when I write this poem:
Today I wrote down 100 things I am abundant in
And I realized I have everything that I need and want
Except one
Fear: fear of money running out
But what if that one fear is actually just afraid
Afraid that I make a living doing what I love
Afraid that I can create whatever I want
Afraid that I live a life that I’ve always wanted
All fears are the same
They may look like fear for different things
Yet all is just one
Fear
And of course, releasing fears that creates doubt isn’t just a step-by-step formula or a single guided meditation, but rather a gentle process that differs to every individual and their specific soul needs. This is why I facilitate this in my 1:1 mentorship here.
When you finally release your fears, you realize that nothing can stop what your soul has called upon to create on this earth. You see that God already has laid a plan that’s more perfect than anything the mind could come up with. And that if you are abiding in God’s Will, all that your true desires will be done.
3. Doubt your doubts
Another reason why doubts persist is because we think we are the voices in our head.
But really if you look more closely at the doubter, who’s doubting?
Your mom? Your dad? Your teacher in fifth grade?
Your doubts are released once you get into a space where you see that you are not the one doubting but it’s a third party who doubted themselves imposing their doubts on you. That is, when you doubt your doubts.
I had plenty of doubts that used to hold me back myself. I remember when I first desired to pursue entrepreneurship back in college, I wanted to get started posting videos on youtube. But I wasted 3 years on thinking about it! And during the entire time while I was holding myself back, I felt unfulfilled– like I’m not living my fullest self.
Later on, I learned that these doubts were not intrinsically mine, but they were passed on. I noticed it when years later, I was suggesting my mom to start her own business but with every idea we got, her first thought would be “BUT”... (then insert ten thousand excuses you can think of). She held doubts that were similar to mine, and my grandmother… and every mother up our lineage.
When you begin seeing these patterns, you will see that doubts are like old video tapes back from the 80s and 90s repeating the stories of our small, limited selves over and over again. They may have given us the illusion of “safety” in the past but by doing that, they are also chaining us down from being freed and creating what you actually want.
This is when you will realize that they are actually boring because they only keep resurfacing your past self (and why you can’t do what you desire). But instead, you are ready to release and make space for the new….
4. Act on what’s true
As you doubt your doubts and begin questioning these doubts, you will begin to see that the doubts in your head are actually untrue– false stories that do not actually represent the Self you actually can be. And the key here is to note that:
The more you act on what’s true, the more you will be able to let go of what’s untrue (i.e. self-doubts).
Your action becomes a living proof that you are beyond whom the doubter thinks you are. So that means if the doubt is saying “you can’t coach” by all means, find opportunities to coach, and you will see the infinite Self (and wisdom) inside of you.
To me, my inner doubter used to say that “my writings suck” (because I would get very few likes on facebook), but instead I went all trusting my calling to write content and a few months down the line of being consistent, I began seeing (potential) clients telling me how deeply my posts resonate with them.
As you continue acting with devotion on what you actually desire rather than what the doubter says, you will begin hearing a voice that trusts yourself (the Divine in you). This is the voice of intuition. It’s the voice of Spirit who is guiding you to where you are called to step into, without fear.
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If you are reading this post, I know you are called by a mission to serve people and create/build things in new and innovative ways, via your business.
And the only thing that can hold us back on this path, is the mind that is afraid of how great of a height your spirit can soar. To that, I leave this line for you, so you remember that no mountain is too big, when the Will of God is on your side.
