The key to freeing yourself— through unapologetic soul expression

Your soul has a wealth of treasure to be uncovered, my love. 

Wealth that is more than just in terms of material wealth. 

But also in terms of connection, wisdom, service, and most importantly your fulfillment… 

And all of them are coming through in no other way other than your self-expression. That is, the thing that you most want to create, express, and share with the world.

Yes, you have all that you need to turn them into your desires. Whether that is to impact more people through your business or connect more deeply in your relationships, your self-expression is the raw material that creates it all… 

However, to many women, this desire to freely express yourself is restrained, toned down, and held back. From a young age, we are told that we shouldn’t be this and that or even if we speak, to “be quiet.” 

And so when it comes to self-expression, it’s no surprise that we feel blocked, restricted, and limited. It’s also no surprise that whenever you want to say something, your mind will first overthink, hesitate, and doubt yourself. 

I’ve been in that “blocked” department myself in the past, where in my business I was afraid of sharing what I actually believed in because I thought it would attract less clients. There was also a time where I was afraid of people unfollowing or not “liking” me and so I was tip-toeing around to not trigger people. 

Fast forward to now, I just let myself speak in whatever way that I’m feeling in my business, without having to overplan and overthink. This not only invites the women who come into my work to be more aligned to my truths but also reduces a lot of friction when it comes to running my business because I’m not wasting my energy being caught up in my head anymore. 

But the thing is, I didn’t get here through “trying” to be consistent on social media and following a marketing strategy that others tell me to do. Rather, it was through letting go of all the fears that have been holding me back. 

Which is why in this article, I’ll be sharing with you the common blocks that I see often block sensitive souls from being true to themselves… which are important to release, if you desire to real freedom in life, through unapologetic self expression.

The fear of being “too much”

If you are reading this, you probably already knew how talented, gifted, and brilliant you were as a kid. 

You probably had multiple passions, with many big dreams, and ideas of what you wanted to do when you grew up. 

However, if you are like many of the women who come into my work, you may have been told by your parents/other people at school that you were just “delulu” or out of touch with reality. Or you may be pointed out for your flaws and why you don't fit the “perfect” standard of what you should be.

Instead you may be told to just do what other people say, follow the “logical” approach, and not question.  

Or you may have been questioned of your worth, like “who do you think you are to dream of that, want that, have that” etc. 

All of which only makes us dim our light and repress our natural desires my love. 

Which is why the first step to healing blocks around self-expression is always going to the root of who you wanted to be as a little kid… and asking, are you allowing this little girl to be who she wants to be? 

The key to healing is to let this little girl in you be in her wildness, craziness, and playfulness, while letting her know that it’s safe to be “too much.” Because after all, the label of being “too much” was created by the egos (i.e. false selves of our parents) who couldn’t hold too much love. 

But once you allow this little girl to be who she wants to be, you will see that all the things that make you “too much” are actually your gifts. Inside your “too muchness” are actually ideas, expressions, and truths that are wanting to come out of you. It is an abundant source that you can never run out of.  

The fear of not getting what you want

The other thing that holds you back from fully expressing your soul (and therefore the wealth of your gifts) my love, is the need to be something/ someone else in order to get to an external outcome.

This can look like… 

The need to show that you’re successful– in order to attract clients
Or the need to be a “good” girl– in order to be liked by friends
Or the need to be quiet– in order to appease others etc.

And the thing is, no matter what you are trying to express as, it will be unsustainable and stressful in the long haul for you to keep on needing to display a certain image of you. That’s because what you are trying to express is a “mask” and is not actually who you are.

Instead, the “mask” is a false covering that you’ve created because you think that if you are different from it, you are not going to get the outcome that you want. So in a way, that means we are shape-shifting ourselves in order to be “magnetic”, impressive, or pleasing to other people. 

Yet, deep down when we put on this “mask” to appear as “better” than who we actually are, the soul (i.e. true Self) is suffocated, restricted, and repressed. That is because what your soul wants the most is freedom to express whatever you desire… instead of forcing yourself to look like something just to get an outcome. 

That means having freedom to express even the parts that you think are messy, annoying, or “bad.” That means expressing the parts of you think are unlikable and unlovable. 

And what you will find my love is that joy is in the expression of the true Self itself. And it’s way deeper and even more satisfying than the type of ephemeral happiness you get from getting to an outcome as a result of wearing the “mask.” That’s because what your soul most wants is to be loved and received for WHO YOU ARE, and not just an image you present to the world as. 

The fear of being seen (in your “unwanted” parts)

Lastly, a common fear I see that holds back a lot of women from being fulfilled through their gifts is the fear of being seen. 

Which comes down to the fear of being judged. 

As wrong.
As bad.
As not enough etc. 
Which to me for a long time, used to be the fear of not being the “high achiever” and being seen as “perfect.”

To some, this fear can be so palpable that it manifests as physical symptoms whenever you need to speak up/express yourself. Like having a constantly clenched jaw, or a tight neck (associated with a blocked throat chakra). Or it can feel like a tightness around the stomach (associated with a blocked solar plexus). 

That’s because deep down, the little girl in you is feeling like she needs to hide herself in order to protect herself. And the physical symptoms happen because the body is trying to “protect” her (even if you are actually safe and there is no actual threat). 

To heal this is to bring unconditional safety into your body so that your body is not trying to shut your little girl down and instead is supporting her. You do this by walking with the little girl into the fears, yet finding safety inside your body that is greater than any fears. 

And when you do that, you will see that the fear of being seen is actually a fear of experiencing a certain sensation in your body. That means it is not actually the circumstances that we are afraid of, but sensations in our bodies that we are afraid of. And when you allow yourself to feel it all, you come to a realization that there is actually nothing that is “scary” at all. 

This is also how you come to realize that no outside judgment/perception can actually hurt us unless we hurt ourselves. And by finding unconditional safety in our body we are dissolving the weapon we use to hurt ourselves, and therefore judgments from others.

An example practice for transforming fears into safety

Go to the part of your body that is afraid of being seen by others. You may experience that as a tightness or contraction in your body. If that part of your body had a voice, what would it say? What is she afraid of? What would happen to her if she were to face that fear? Would she freeze, fawn, or freak out if she were to face that fear?

Then visualize yourself holding this little girl who is expressing fears and imagine as though you are walking through a corridor with her. This corridor is your body and you will notice how the little girl tends to cling to certain rooms (i.e. parts of your body) and avoid others. And the rooms that she is afraid of are the parts of your body that are tense and contracted because there are shadows that the little girl is scared of. If you were to open these doors, what shapes and figures of shadows would you see? 

However, inside your hands, you hold a torch light that shines unconditional love, truth, and light. If this torchlight of yours was to shine into the rooms that the little girl is afraid of, what would the shadow transform into? You can feel that the shadow just wants your love, and under the presence of love, it will show you what it actually is (maybe it is a teddy bear, maybe it is a puppy, or something else). Can you let these characters speak to your little girl that she is actually safe? If so, what would the little girl like to express? 

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Above is just an example to show you how you can release blocks to your unapologetic self-expression, in fact instantaneously. How easily this happens depends on what’s currently present in your body/psyche of course, which is why I help facilitate healing in a way that is tailored to your soul here. 

And once your full soul expression comes through, on the other side of it, you will see how easy it is to be happy, satisfied, and fulfilled in this moment and in every moment. Because your expression is what allows you to freely follow + take action on what’s the highest for you in a way that fills you up. To the soul, it’s actually one of the most invaluable gifts that you unlock because through your unapologetic expression, you get to experience true freedom that makes who you are…